Here are a few ideas that I use that may help manage holiday stress:
1. Live in this moment , just take a look around, be present and be realistic. Are your expectations of what your home, your husband, you, your kids, your pets and just anything around you realistic? We do not have to be perfect. I watched some of the the Holiday movies with my husband and grand kids and dreamt that I would have my home decorated like a movie set and the food and cookies would be perfect! I imagined the tree lit perfectly and all our decorations in place …when in reality, the tree is 34 years old and leans towards Australia, the star on top lights when it feels like it, and the new dog thinks it’s a fire hydrant. I had to sit back and just enjoy watching the kids chase the dog and try to sneak peeks into the boxes..
2. Take care of yourself and those around you will follow…. This can include regular walks after dinner to just talk about the day. Adequate sleep, sleep is necessary , your body needs some down time. Eating a healthy diet, this way when you go to a social venue a small appetizer or dessert won’t throw you off the healthy wagon! Before and /or after work or shopping stretch your muscles and take a deep breath ( 2 or 3 minutes will make a huge difference!) .
3. Think about what is most important and valuable to you during the holidays and keep those as priority. Just say no to things that are not on your priority list, and ask for help when needed. I make a calendar and write all appointments on it , social and work related, I have everyone give me their school, recital, work related and family related gatherings. This way every knows where we have to be , when and how to dress ( well, more or less). this helps keep all of us on the same page , especially if you have teenagers who seem have last minute projects that involve engineering, driving all over the county and plenty of money! If it’s not on the calendar… oh well!
4. Be grateful. Just look around at all the goodness you are blessed with. Sometimes we get so caught up with what we need to do, the insane amount of traffic, and our family who depends on us that we forget how much good is around us! When I have a bad hair day.. I tell myself to be grateful I have hair, and a roof over my head! Good neighbors, a garden ( I call it a garden !) a car to get to places!! I get to be a part of your children’s lives and get them to giggle and enjoy the moment…ahhh yes I am grateful!
Wishing you and yours a blissful stress free , Love filled Holiday Season and New Year. I appreciate all of your support and kindness this year, ….Ooopsy
2014 has been a busy and fruitful year for children. State of the art car seats, cribs, toys, clothes, diapers and so many really creative ideas for parties , learning and just growing up. It could be over whelming if you let it get to you, but remember you made it through 2014 …
you are still breathing and so are the kids!
Giving your child a great birthday party teaches them the importance of aging in a positive way and family milestones that they will cherish when they get older. Having one day in the year that makes you special is a great thing in my book!
I appreciate all the love , referrals and bookings you have given all of us this year. Making children happy and inspiring them to be their best is like breathing for me. Your children laugh and smile and say the most wonderful things to me , I feel blessed being a part of their lives.
May 2015 bring you more love, more joy and the faith to know wholeheartedly that you are making a garden of positive love for your children to grow in. A garden where you have gently planted, patience, knowledge, healthy eating, and a will be great. As they grow up you will know you have done your best to help them be compassionate and productive human beings.
Lets’ be the best we can be for ourselves, so we may be the example for our children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews.
Start 2015 with a cape on your shoulders and a tiara on your head, let everyone know you mean business, when it comes to making 2015 the best year ever!
God Bless You and Happy, Tappy, Wonderful, Giggle filled New Year!
“Raising Happiness is an elegant, funny, and rigorous handbook for the humbling task of raising joyful children. Brimming with brilliantly distilled science, poignant stories from her family, and what parents so urgently seek — clear, practical, and informed guidance — it is an encyclopedia of wisdom for raising children in today’s multitasking, multimedia world. Christine Carter offers thoughtful approaches to raising more grateful, playful, mindful children and she provides practical tips for how to handle the conflicts of siblings, the challenges of the new media, and countering the pressures of perfectionism and materialism. In reading this engaging book, you are very likely to find yourself a bit happier as well.”
These simple tips will help any child feel happier. But they are especially useful for a child who often feels sad or is experiencing other kinds of difficulties. You might not be able to do them all at once. Pick two or three and make them habitual. Then try adding more.
1. Make a list of your child’s best qualities. Is he helpful, generous, creative, a good brother to his siblings? Does she excel in art, music, reading or computer skills? After you’ve made the list (writing it down helps), tell your child one or two good things about himself every day, without being too obvious about it of course. Just sprinkle them casually into conversation.
2. Invite your child to play a board game or do a puzzle. In these days of the “electronic hearth”, reading aloud, playing board games and doing jigsaw puzzles around a real hearth have all but disappeared from our children’s lives. Your child would love to play checkers, cards, Monopoly, Stratego, or another board game with you. If time is limited, play a short game or keep an ongoing game or puzzle on a table in the family room.